Secretive about dating
Also, when we go out in a group, I have to act as though we are not together, and it is becoming harder and harder to do. I really like her and I understand that she's not in an easy position, but I worry I'm gonna screw up because I'm insecure about the secrecy.—Insecure But Hopeful Dear IBH, As someone who has "dated" (term used loosely) my fair share of straight and/or unavailable women, I have been someone's dirty little secret more times than I care to admit. You feel like an international spy, ducking around corners, looking at your watch every few minutes as if you had somewhere VERY IMPORTANT TO BE and are not, in fact, waiting for an everything bagel.Once that sorta-fun feeling wears off, however, it just feels shitty.Dear Moneyologist, My mother who died last year left behind a trust with rental properties, cash and investment accounts to all of her three children in equal amounts.My sister was left as executor but immediately joined with another sister to start controlling our mother’s assets.It's a formula for passion, and a formula for dire trouble, but what's life without a little risk?Dear Anna: I've been dating this girl for two months.
Maybe their entire relationship is based on trading Tom Cruise horror stories. It's been great except she's not out and it's starting to be difficult for me.After talking about where she was (she's never dated a woman before), we agreed to take things slow.Perhaps the best real-life example of this scenario is actress Sandra Bullock and her ex-husband, motorcycle bad boy Jesse James, who publicly split after his serial infidelity was revealed in 2010another because they are strong enough to "take" her, these men are also the cheaters, verbal/emotional abusers or worse.I was really glad she asked her question for two reasons: (1) because the same problem affects so many smart, accomplished women, and (2) because I can explain what this phenomenon is all about.